Finding the ‘Like’ in Love

“Allow yourself the luxury of someone who likes you back.” 

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Saying this, or better yet tweeting this is something that would come across as common sense, no? But in all honesty, looking back at all my past relationships whether they were platonic or not, I have failed to follow that mantra.

Junior year of college was rough to say the least, everything was so chaotic and so negative. The main problem that created all that chaos was that the people in my life did not like me. In fact, they couldn’t stand me. My “friends” were making fun of my interests and hobbies, my old flame did the same and constantly lied about everything and it was almost as if it was easier for them if I was sad. I mean, it’s easier to talk someone into anything when they’re depressed and vulnerable.

So when I say that having people who like you is a luxury, I truly mean that. Find people who support you whether you’re just starting a company or your brand has been booming for years. Allow people to be excited to see you and do you favors because you deserve them and offer people that same luxury and commitment.

When dating, it’s so easy to fall into that: “I’m simple.” “I don’t want much, just honesty and attention” mindset. Is that really you though? Fun, happiness, excitement, solace. That’s the shock value that keeps the relationship connected not just put together. Now, I’m not saying that your relationship should be extravagant 25/8 (if that’s your preference, then by all means), but what I am saying is that you should be surrounding yourself with people who actually want to be there. It’s such a freeing feeling simply because you don’t have to put a majority of your energy trying to convince them on why they should stay.

-But that’s just Jamice…of course.

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“Why I Stayed…” | I’m Finally A Published Author!

So I am an avid reader and I have been writing all my life and I am proud to say that I am now published on Amazon! I wrote a short book of poems and excerpts that follow some of the darkest and happiest times of life dating all the way back to middle school.

Writing is something that comes easy but also is very hard because I excel at fiction but i struggle with putting my real thoughts into post like these. When I make up characters and scenarios, the words just flow and the story kind of weaves itself. On the other hand, when I report my life in a more non-fiction way, I call it “real time writing,” my words tend to become convoluted and take on this start-stop feel in which I feel like I’m reading a first-draft.

In addition, I always love the art of performing as I grew up in church and I am a singer. I was a part of ‘Phenomenal Voices,’ a performing arts and community service group at SUNY University at Albany, and since then I fell in love with the idea of spoken word.

“Why I stayed…” really hits home for me because it is so personal and so raw; but that I know it will evoke strong emotions and hopefully bring back some of those happy memories for my audience. When writing this, it felt like fiction because of the use of metaphors and heavy symbolism and allowed me to really tap into those emotions without having to name names. I love to write fiction and I am currently working on a few novels that I hope to have done by the end of this year or early 2018.

I hope to turn “Why I Stayed…” into a series of about three or four books that fall into each other and allow people to see the real writer behind the great author I aspire to be. If you would like to support my work, you can add the kindle version or the paperback to your summer reading list!

Jamice Of Course – Episode 4: Disappointment & Closure

Hey guys! I know it’s been a while but I am back with episode four of my podcast. This one is about disappointment and closure and sometimes we will have to do with one without the other. Although I got a little excited, I’m passionate about this topic! I hope you guys enjoy and thank you for you support!

Jamice Of Course – Episode 2 – Self Worth & Discernment

Hey loves! So this is my second addition to my podcast. In this episode, I talk about self worth and the struggles of discernment. I find myself asking God not do to the work for me, but to give me the power to discern, or tell apart the good from the bad. Whether it is people, actions, decisions. I want to have the power to judge character for myself and I believe that goes hand-in-hand with developing and increasing the value of myself. Please take a listen!

Jamice Of Course Official Podcast Launch!

Hey loves! So I have launched my first official episode to my podcast: Jamice Of Course. Here I will be discussing a different amount of issues that I believe us as young black women want to or should be talking about.

Although I have my blog, I believe that different messages should be presented on different platforms. I pride myself on being a Jill of all trades and I hope this episode finds you well. Please share and offer any feedback you can! Thank you for all your support.

As Always,

Jamice

Losing Myself In Me

For the past couple of weeks or so I have found that I have gotten farther away from the likes of social media and all that comes with it. I have focused up and started writing, reading, and learning, basically setting up my dominos of life to fall into place. I have been reading this book “Tuesdays with Morrie” and it has changed my perspective on the ways I’ve been handling my life and better yet, handling myself.

  1. I want to be more careful: I need to treat myself with care. Mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually and everything in between. I have taken to being alone and learning how to enjoy it. Listening to the rhythms of my silence and syncing them with the rhythms of my work ethic has been a challenge but I am learning to better myself with time.
  2. I want to be consistent: To follow up my with work ethic, I want to deliver what I promised to myself and to the audience. I want to post great content on my blog and have my words resonate with my readers. I want to inspire others to start up their platforms and challenge themselves the way that I’m trying to do.
  3. I want to be brave: Another gem I stole from Tuesdays with Morrie is to immerse myself in my feelings. Whether I’m angry, in love, sad, or excited, I want to feel it all. I want to allow myself to completely indulge in my emotions without allowing them to control, or better yet, destroy me.
  4. I want to be free: I felt myself living with restraints. Scared to be judged and lessen my experience with the opinions of others. I want to thoroughly experience my travels. To establish and actually meet my goals head on.

“Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.” – Morrie Schwartz

 

Where’s Jordan?: In The Workplace

A week or so ago, I called Jordan up and asked him a simple question which he, in turn, gave me a simple answer.

“How do you feel about being involved with someone at your jo-“

*shakes head* NOPE. I don’t sh*t where I eat.

Welp. There you have it.

However, this is an idea I’ve been toying with back and forth for quite some time. Nobody or a time in specific but just a general idea of working with someone you’re involved with. I’ve seen regular boyfriend/girlfriend couples work together, married couples work together, even exes work together and I never seen it as a problem until Jordan and my friend Kyndal expressed that it was indeed a horrible idea.

I always thought that as mature adults, you should be able to handle yourself in the workplace and leave personal things at home but then I began to realize that there were times where I had to call out of work just because I couldn’t deal with certain personal issues. With that being said, in what world am I talking about being professional at work around my significant other.

Listen sis, I slap people. So I highly doubt that I could leave the problems at home when my hands travel everywhere with me.

I proceeded to take my curiosities elsewhere and got some feedback:

What are your thoughts?