“Allow yourself the luxury of someone who likes you back.”
Saying this, or better yet tweeting this is something that would come across as common sense, no? But in all honesty, looking back at all my past relationships whether they were platonic or not, I have failed to follow that mantra.
Junior year of college was rough to say the least, everything was so chaotic and so negative. The main problem that created all that chaos was that the people in my life did not like me. In fact, they couldn’t stand me. My “friends” were making fun of my interests and hobbies, my old flame did the same and constantly lied about everything and it was almost as if it was easier for them if I was sad. I mean, it’s easier to talk someone into anything when they’re depressed and vulnerable.
So when I say that having people who like you is a luxury, I truly mean that. Find people who support you whether you’re just starting a company or your brand has been booming for years. Allow people to be excited to see you and do you favors because you deserve them and offer people that same luxury and commitment.
When dating, it’s so easy to fall into that: “I’m simple.” “I don’t want much, just honesty and attention” mindset. Is that really you though? Fun, happiness, excitement, solace. That’s the shock value that keeps the relationship connected not just put together. Now, I’m not saying that your relationship should be extravagant 25/8 (if that’s your preference, then by all means), but what I am saying is that you should be surrounding yourself with people who actually want to be there. It’s such a freeing feeling simply because you don’t have to put a majority of your energy trying to convince them on why they should stay.
-But that’s just Jamice…of course.